National Coming Out Day: A Personal Journey of Authenticity

Written by Shereen Johal

National Coming Out Day, observed annually on 11 October, is a day of immense significance for the LGBTQ+ community, celebrating the power of visibility and the importance of living authentically. For me, it’s even more special—ironically, it’s also my birthday, so I can say that in every sense of the word and the day, I literally came out!

Over the years, I’ve formed close connections with people who self-identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. One thing I’ve come to understand is that no two coming-out stories are the same. Each journey is unique—some are smoother, while others are more challenging. Regardless of how difficult the process might be, coming out is always a milestone. It marks the beginning of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and the journey toward living as your true authentic self.

I won’t sugarcoat it—coming out can be terrifying. You’re revealing a deeply personal part of yourself, hoping that your family, friends, and community will continue to love and accept you for who you truly are. It’s an act of vulnerability that is both empowering and nerve-wracking.

Beyond the personal significance, coming out has a ripple effect. It can inspire others to embrace their own truths and challenge societal prejudices, fostering greater understanding and acceptance across communities.

I often hear the question, “Why do you need to come out? Straight people don’t.” This question misses the point. For many LGBT+ individuals, coming out isn’t for others; it’s for you. It’s about embracing who you are and living authentically. Acceptance begins within. Also, straight people are fortunate in that society is by its nature very heteronormative, where the default assumption is that everyone is cisgender and attracted to the opposite sex. Anytime you challenge that assumption, you’re essentially "coming out."

And here’s the thing— because of that, coming out doesn’t just happen once. It’s a continual process, whether personally or professionally. You’d think it would get easier over time, but no matter how many times I come out to new people, it can still feel daunting like the first. But truly, each time is just as rewarding and affirming. Since I embraced my identity and came out to myself and everyone in my life, I’ve never felt more alive or happier.